datapath: fix 12 correctness findings from tun/UDP offload review

Multi-disciplinary correctness review of the batched tun / GSO-GRO / sendmmsg
rework. Each fix has a regression test; the merged tree builds on
linux/darwin/openbsd/windows/freebsd/netbsd, vets clean, passes the unit and
e2e suites, and is -race clean.

Critical:
- C1 zero-length inner UDP datagram no longer panics the process (remote DoS):
  the UDP coalescer routes payLen==0 to passthrough instead of seeding a GSO
  slot, and WriteGSO skips empty payload iovecs as defense in depth.
- C2 segmenter no longer corrupts inner headers when gsoSize < headerLen: the
  L3+L4 header is snapshotted once and each segment stamped from the copy,
  replacing the destructive overlapping in-place slide (SegmentTCP + SegmentUDP).

High:
- H1 applyOuterECN updates the IPv4 header checksum (RFC 1624 incremental) when
  folding outer CE into the inner ToS, so passthrough packets are no longer
  dropped by the peer stack.
- H2 the GRO reject path caps the borrowed RX segment ([:n:n]) so a reject can
  no longer overrun into the next coalesced segment's Nebula header. Note:
  oversized ICMPv6 rejects that need >16B beyond the segment are now refused
  rather than sent under GRO (safe; see TOFIX.md for the scratch-buffer follow-up).
- H3 WriteBatch falls back to per-packet WriteTo for a chunk when writeSockaddr
  fails, so one bad-family destination costs only its own packet, not the batch.
- H4 UserDevice.Readers returns N distinct queue wrappers with private buffers
  (sharing the pipes) so concurrent readers no longer race/overwrite borrowed
  packet bytes.
- H5 Poll.Close / Offload.Close no longer null t.fd (matching master's
  tunFile.Close), removing the data race with a concurrent readOne load.

Medium/Low:
- M1 the UDP GSO 127-segment gate moved from kernel >=5.5 to >=6.9 (the real
  UDP_MAX_SEGMENTS 64->128 threshold), avoiding EINVAL + per-packet fallback on
  5.5-6.8 kernels.
- M2 NewMultiQueueReader replays the offload mask newTun actually negotiated
  instead of the TSO-only mask, so adding a queue no longer disables USO
  device-wide; the advertised USO capability derives from the same mask.
- M3 the shutdown eventfd is closed in pollQueueSet.Close / offloadQueueSet.Close
  (double-close guarded), fixing the per-lifecycle fd leak.
- M4 dual-stack ECN selects the cmsg by address family, not socket family: RX
  parseRecvCmsg reads both IP_TOS and IPV6_TCLASS; TX writeEntryCmsg stamps
  IP_TOS for v4/v4-mapped dests and IPV6_TCLASS for v6 (on-host verified).
- L1 newPoll no longer closes the fd on failure (matching newOffload), removing
  the double-close on QueueSet.Add error.

overlay/tio/tun_linux_offload_test.go

@@ -640,6 +640,38 @@ func TestTunFileWriteVnetHdrNoAlloc(t *testing.T) {
 	}
 }
 
+// TestWriteGSOSkipsEmptyPayloads is the defense-in-depth guard for the
+// zero-length UDP DoS: a payload fragment of length zero would make &p[0]
+// panic (index-out-of-range) when building the iovec array. WriteGSO must
+// skip empties instead. We write to /dev/null so the writev always succeeds
+// synchronously; the point is simply that neither call panics.
+func TestWriteGSOSkipsEmptyPayloads(t *testing.T) {
+	fd, err := unix.Open("/dev/null", os.O_WRONLY, 0)
+	if err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("open /dev/null: %v", err)
+	}
+	t.Cleanup(func() { _ = unix.Close(fd) })
+
+	o := &Offload{fd: fd, gsoIovs: make([]unix.Iovec, 2, gsoMaxIovs)}
+	o.gsoIovs[0].Base = &o.gsoHdrBuf[0]
+	o.gsoIovs[0].SetLen(virtio.Size)
+
+	ipHdr := make([]byte, 20)
+	ipHdr[0] = 0x45 // IPv4, IHL 5
+	udpHdr := make([]byte, 8)
+
+	// Sole payload empty: exercises the all-empty skip (n stays at 3).
+	if err := o.WriteGSO(ipHdr, udpHdr, [][]byte{{}}, GSOProtoUDP); err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("WriteGSO with a single empty payload: %v", err)
+	}
+	// Empty mixed with a real fragment: exercises the index-drift skip so a
+	// later non-empty payload still lands in the right iovec slot.
+	real := make([]byte, 1200)
+	if err := o.WriteGSO(ipHdr, udpHdr, [][]byte{real, {}}, GSOProtoUDP); err != nil {
+		t.Fatalf("WriteGSO with a trailing empty payload: %v", err)
+	}
+}
+
 // buildTSOv6 builds a synthetic IPv6/TCP TSO superpacket with payLen bytes
 // of payload, segmented at gso. Returns the packet bytes only; the
 // virtio_net_hdr is the caller's responsibility.