datapath: fix 12 correctness findings from tun/UDP offload review

Multi-disciplinary correctness review of the batched tun / GSO-GRO / sendmmsg
rework. Each fix has a regression test; the merged tree builds on
linux/darwin/openbsd/windows/freebsd/netbsd, vets clean, passes the unit and
e2e suites, and is -race clean.

Critical:
- C1 zero-length inner UDP datagram no longer panics the process (remote DoS):
  the UDP coalescer routes payLen==0 to passthrough instead of seeding a GSO
  slot, and WriteGSO skips empty payload iovecs as defense in depth.
- C2 segmenter no longer corrupts inner headers when gsoSize < headerLen: the
  L3+L4 header is snapshotted once and each segment stamped from the copy,
  replacing the destructive overlapping in-place slide (SegmentTCP + SegmentUDP).

High:
- H1 applyOuterECN updates the IPv4 header checksum (RFC 1624 incremental) when
  folding outer CE into the inner ToS, so passthrough packets are no longer
  dropped by the peer stack.
- H2 the GRO reject path caps the borrowed RX segment ([:n:n]) so a reject can
  no longer overrun into the next coalesced segment's Nebula header. Note:
  oversized ICMPv6 rejects that need >16B beyond the segment are now refused
  rather than sent under GRO (safe; see TOFIX.md for the scratch-buffer follow-up).
- H3 WriteBatch falls back to per-packet WriteTo for a chunk when writeSockaddr
  fails, so one bad-family destination costs only its own packet, not the batch.
- H4 UserDevice.Readers returns N distinct queue wrappers with private buffers
  (sharing the pipes) so concurrent readers no longer race/overwrite borrowed
  packet bytes.
- H5 Poll.Close / Offload.Close no longer null t.fd (matching master's
  tunFile.Close), removing the data race with a concurrent readOne load.

Medium/Low:
- M1 the UDP GSO 127-segment gate moved from kernel >=5.5 to >=6.9 (the real
  UDP_MAX_SEGMENTS 64->128 threshold), avoiding EINVAL + per-packet fallback on
  5.5-6.8 kernels.
- M2 NewMultiQueueReader replays the offload mask newTun actually negotiated
  instead of the TSO-only mask, so adding a queue no longer disables USO
  device-wide; the advertised USO capability derives from the same mask.
- M3 the shutdown eventfd is closed in pollQueueSet.Close / offloadQueueSet.Close
  (double-close guarded), fixing the per-lifecycle fd leak.
- M4 dual-stack ECN selects the cmsg by address family, not socket family: RX
  parseRecvCmsg reads both IP_TOS and IPV6_TCLASS; TX writeEntryCmsg stamps
  IP_TOS for v4/v4-mapped dests and IPV6_TCLASS for v6 (on-host verified).
- L1 newPoll no longer closes the fd on failure (matching newOffload), removing
  the double-close on QueueSet.Add error.

overlay/tio/tio_poll_linux.go

@@ -27,9 +27,12 @@ type Poll struct {
 	batchRet [1]Packet
 }
 
+// newPoll wraps an existing tun fd. On failure it does NOT close fd: the
+// caller owns fd and is the sole closer (see pollQueueSet.Add callers in
+// overlay/tun_linux.go, which unix.Close on Add error). This matches the
+// newOffload convention and keeps closes at exactly one on every path.
 func newPoll(fd int, shutdownFd int) (*Poll, error) {
 	if err := unix.SetNonblock(fd, true); err != nil {
-		_ = unix.Close(fd)
 		return nil, fmt.Errorf("failed to set Poll device as nonblocking: %w", err)
 	}
 
@@ -157,11 +160,9 @@ func (t *Poll) Close() error {
 		return nil
 	}
 	//shutdownFd is owned by the container, so we should not close it
-	var err error
-	if t.fd >= 0 {
-		err = unix.Close(t.fd)
-		t.fd = -1
-	}
-
-	return err
+	// Close the underlying fd but do NOT null t.fd: a reader may still be
+	// loading it in readOne, and mutating the field would race that load.
+	// It gets EBADF -> os.ErrClosed (or wakes via the shutdown eventfd's
+	// ppoll first). closed.Swap already guarantees we only close once.
+	return unix.Close(t.fd)
 }