Drop inactive tunnels (#1427)

hostmap.go

@@ -256,6 +256,14 @@ type HostInfo struct {
 	// Used to track other hostinfos for this vpn ip since only 1 can be primary
 	// Synchronised via hostmap lock and not the hostinfo lock.
 	next, prev *HostInfo
+
+	//TODO: in, out, and others might benefit from being an atomic.Int32. We could collapse connectionManager pendingDeletion, relayUsed, and in/out into this 1 thing
+	in, out, pendingDeletion atomic.Bool
+
+	// lastUsed tracks the last time ConnectionManager checked the tunnel and it was in use.
+	// This value will be behind against actual tunnel utilization in the hot path.
+	// This should only be used by the ConnectionManagers ticker routine.
+	lastUsed time.Time
 }
 
 type ViaSender struct {