datapath: fix 12 correctness findings from tun/UDP offload review

Multi-disciplinary correctness review of the batched tun / GSO-GRO / sendmmsg
rework. Each fix has a regression test; the merged tree builds on
linux/darwin/openbsd/windows/freebsd/netbsd, vets clean, passes the unit and
e2e suites, and is -race clean.

Critical:
- C1 zero-length inner UDP datagram no longer panics the process (remote DoS):
  the UDP coalescer routes payLen==0 to passthrough instead of seeding a GSO
  slot, and WriteGSO skips empty payload iovecs as defense in depth.
- C2 segmenter no longer corrupts inner headers when gsoSize < headerLen: the
  L3+L4 header is snapshotted once and each segment stamped from the copy,
  replacing the destructive overlapping in-place slide (SegmentTCP + SegmentUDP).

High:
- H1 applyOuterECN updates the IPv4 header checksum (RFC 1624 incremental) when
  folding outer CE into the inner ToS, so passthrough packets are no longer
  dropped by the peer stack.
- H2 the GRO reject path caps the borrowed RX segment ([:n:n]) so a reject can
  no longer overrun into the next coalesced segment's Nebula header. Note:
  oversized ICMPv6 rejects that need >16B beyond the segment are now refused
  rather than sent under GRO (safe; see TOFIX.md for the scratch-buffer follow-up).
- H3 WriteBatch falls back to per-packet WriteTo for a chunk when writeSockaddr
  fails, so one bad-family destination costs only its own packet, not the batch.
- H4 UserDevice.Readers returns N distinct queue wrappers with private buffers
  (sharing the pipes) so concurrent readers no longer race/overwrite borrowed
  packet bytes.
- H5 Poll.Close / Offload.Close no longer null t.fd (matching master's
  tunFile.Close), removing the data race with a concurrent readOne load.

Medium/Low:
- M1 the UDP GSO 127-segment gate moved from kernel >=5.5 to >=6.9 (the real
  UDP_MAX_SEGMENTS 64->128 threshold), avoiding EINVAL + per-packet fallback on
  5.5-6.8 kernels.
- M2 NewMultiQueueReader replays the offload mask newTun actually negotiated
  instead of the TSO-only mask, so adding a queue no longer disables USO
  device-wide; the advertised USO capability derives from the same mask.
- M3 the shutdown eventfd is closed in pollQueueSet.Close / offloadQueueSet.Close
  (double-close guarded), fixing the per-lifecycle fd leak.
- M4 dual-stack ECN selects the cmsg by address family, not socket family: RX
  parseRecvCmsg reads both IP_TOS and IPV6_TCLASS; TX writeEntryCmsg stamps
  IP_TOS for v4/v4-mapped dests and IPV6_TCLASS for v6 (on-host verified).
- L1 newPoll no longer closes the fd on failure (matching newOffload), removing
  the double-close on QueueSet.Add error.

overlay/tio/queueset_gso_linux.go

@@ -7,6 +7,7 @@ import (
 	"encoding/binary"
 	"errors"
 	"fmt"
+	"sync/atomic"
 
 	"golang.org/x/sys/unix"
 )
@@ -20,6 +21,7 @@ type offloadQueueSet struct {
 	// with the kernel. Queues created by Add inherit this and surface it
 	// via Offload.USOSupported so coalescers can gate USO emission.
 	usoEnabled bool
+	closed     atomic.Bool
 }
 
 // NewOffloadQueueSet creates a QueueSet that uses virtio_net_hdr to do
@@ -65,18 +67,33 @@ func (c *offloadQueueSet) wakeForShutdown() error {
 }
 
 func (c *offloadQueueSet) Close() error {
+	if c.closed.Swap(true) {
+		return nil
+	}
+
 	errs := []error{}
 
-	// Signal all readers blocked in poll to wake up and exit
+	// Signal all readers blocked in poll to wake up and exit. They observe
+	// POLLIN on the shutdown eventfd and return os.ErrClosed.
 	if err := c.wakeForShutdown(); err != nil {
 		errs = append(errs, err)
 	}
 
+	// Close the per-queue tun fds; this also unblocks any in-flight reads.
+	// The per-queue Close deliberately leaves shutdownFd alone - it belongs
+	// to this container.
 	for _, x := range c.pq {
 		if err := x.Close(); err != nil {
 			errs = append(errs, err)
 		}
 	}
 
+	// Close the shutdown eventfd last: every reader's pollfd set references
+	// it, so it must outlive the wake + per-queue teardown above.
+	if err := unix.Close(c.shutdownFd); err != nil {
+		errs = append(errs, err)
+	}
+	c.shutdownFd = -1
+
 	return errors.Join(errs...)
 }