* upgrade to yaml.v3
The main nice fix here is that maps unmarshal into `map[string]any`
instead of `map[any]any`, so it cleans things up a bit.
* add config.AsBool
Since yaml.v3 doesn't automatically convert yes to bool now, for
backwards compat
* use type aliases for m
* more cleanup
* more cleanup
* more cleanup
* go mod cleanup
These new helpers make the code a lot cleaner. I confirmed that the
simple helpers like `atomic.Int64` don't add any extra overhead as they
get inlined by the compiler. `atomic.Pointer` adds an extra method call
as it no longer gets inlined, but we aren't using these on the hot path
so it is probably okay.
