The tunnel's real bottleneck queue - the UDP receive buffer feeding the
decrypt loop - is invisible to every kernel AQM, so under overload it
regulates ECN-capable flows with tail-drop loss like it's 1993. Sample
SK_MEMINFO once per recvmmsg batch (tunnels.ecn_mark_threshold, fraction
of rcvbuf, 0=off) and treat depth beyond the threshold as an outer CE:
the existing RFC 6040 fold then CE-marks ECT inner packets and senders
back off without loss.