Group the HostInfo fields the packet paths touch

connection_manager.go

@@ -105,11 +105,17 @@ func (cm *connectionManager) getInactivityTimeout() time.Duration {
 }
 
 func (cm *connectionManager) In(h *HostInfo) {
-	h.in.Store(true)
+	h.markIn()
 }
 
-func (cm *connectionManager) Out(h *HostInfo) {
-	h.out.Store(true)
+// OutRelay records relayed traffic, leaving the rebind epoch for the direct path to this host to consume
+func (cm *connectionManager) OutRelay(h *HostInfo) {
+	h.markOutOnly()
+}
+
+// Out records outbound traffic and reports whether we rebound since this tunnel last sent
+func (cm *connectionManager) Out(h *HostInfo) bool {
+	return h.markOut(cm.intf.rebindEpoch.Load())
 }
 
 func (cm *connectionManager) RelayUsed(localIndex uint32) {
@@ -128,8 +134,7 @@ func (cm *connectionManager) RelayUsed(localIndex uint32) {
 // getAndResetTrafficCheck returns if there was any inbound or outbound traffic within the last tick and
 // resets the state for this local index
 func (cm *connectionManager) getAndResetTrafficCheck(h *HostInfo, now time.Time) (bool, bool) {
-	in := h.in.Swap(false)
-	out := h.out.Swap(false)
+	in, out := h.takeTraffic()
 	if in || out {
 		h.lastUsed = now
 	}
@@ -340,7 +345,7 @@ func (cm *connectionManager) makeTrafficDecision(localIndex uint32, now time.Tim
 				"tunnelCheck", m{"state": "alive", "method": "passive"},
 			)
 		}
-		hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Store(false)
+		hostinfo.setPendingDeletion(false)
 
 		if mainHostInfo {
 			decision = tryRehandshake
@@ -363,7 +368,7 @@ func (cm *connectionManager) makeTrafficDecision(localIndex uint32, now time.Tim
 		return decision, hostinfo, primary
 	}
 
-	if hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load() {
+	if hostinfo.isPendingDeletion() {
 		// We have already sent a test packet and nothing was returned, this hostinfo is dead
 		hostinfo.logger(cm.l).Info("Tunnel status",
 			"tunnelCheck", m{"state": "dead", "method": "active"},
@@ -414,7 +419,7 @@ func (cm *connectionManager) makeTrafficDecision(localIndex uint32, now time.Tim
 		}
 	}
 
-	hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Store(true)
+	hostinfo.setPendingDeletion(true)
 	cm.trafficTimer.Add(hostinfo.localIndexId, cm.pendingDeletionInterval)
 	return decision, hostinfo, nil
 }

connection_manager_test.go

@@ -86,25 +86,25 @@ func Test_NewConnectionManagerTest(t *testing.T) {
 	// We saw traffic out to vpnIp
 	nc.Out(hostinfo)
 	nc.In(hostinfo)
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Hosts, hostinfo.vpnAddrs[0])
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Indexes, hostinfo.localIndexId)
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.True(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.True(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 
 	// Do a traffic check tick, should not be pending deletion but should not have any in/out packets recorded
 	nc.doTrafficCheck(hostinfo.localIndexId, p, nb, out, time.Now())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 
 	// Do another traffic check tick, this host should be pending deletion now
 	nc.Out(hostinfo)
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
+	assert.True(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
 	nc.doTrafficCheck(hostinfo.localIndexId, p, nb, out, time.Now())
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.True(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Indexes, hostinfo.localIndexId)
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Hosts, hostinfo.vpnAddrs[0])
 
@@ -168,33 +168,33 @@ func Test_NewConnectionManagerTest2(t *testing.T) {
 	// We saw traffic out to vpnIp
 	nc.Out(hostinfo)
 	nc.In(hostinfo)
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
+	assert.True(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
+	assert.True(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Hosts, hostinfo.vpnAddrs[0])
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Indexes, hostinfo.localIndexId)
 
 	// Do a traffic check tick, should not be pending deletion but should not have any in/out packets recorded
 	nc.doTrafficCheck(hostinfo.localIndexId, p, nb, out, time.Now())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 
 	// Do another traffic check tick, this host should be pending deletion now
 	nc.Out(hostinfo)
 	nc.doTrafficCheck(hostinfo.localIndexId, p, nb, out, time.Now())
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.True(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Indexes, hostinfo.localIndexId)
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Hosts, hostinfo.vpnAddrs[0])
 
 	// We saw traffic, should no longer be pending deletion
 	nc.In(hostinfo)
 	nc.doTrafficCheck(hostinfo.localIndexId, p, nb, out, time.Now())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Indexes, hostinfo.localIndexId)
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Hosts, hostinfo.vpnAddrs[0])
 }
@@ -253,31 +253,31 @@ func Test_NewConnectionManager_DisconnectInactive(t *testing.T) {
 	// Do a traffic check tick, in and out should be cleared but should not be pending deletion
 	nc.Out(hostinfo)
 	nc.In(hostinfo)
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.True(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.True(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.True(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 
 	now := time.Now()
 	decision, _, _ := nc.makeTrafficDecision(hostinfo.localIndexId, now)
 	assert.Equal(t, tryRehandshake, decision)
 	assert.Equal(t, now, hostinfo.lastUsed)
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 
 	decision, _, _ = nc.makeTrafficDecision(hostinfo.localIndexId, now.Add(time.Second*5))
 	assert.Equal(t, doNothing, decision)
 	assert.Equal(t, now, hostinfo.lastUsed)
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 
 	// Do another traffic check tick, should still not be pending deletion
 	decision, _, _ = nc.makeTrafficDecision(hostinfo.localIndexId, now.Add(time.Second*10))
 	assert.Equal(t, doNothing, decision)
 	assert.Equal(t, now, hostinfo.lastUsed)
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Indexes, hostinfo.localIndexId)
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Hosts, hostinfo.vpnAddrs[0])
 
@@ -285,9 +285,9 @@ func Test_NewConnectionManager_DisconnectInactive(t *testing.T) {
 	decision, _, _ = nc.makeTrafficDecision(hostinfo.localIndexId, now.Add(time.Minute*10))
 	assert.Equal(t, closeTunnel, decision)
 	assert.Equal(t, now, hostinfo.lastUsed)
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.pendingDeletion.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.out.Load())
-	assert.False(t, hostinfo.in.Load())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.isPendingDeletion())
+	assert.False(t, hostinfo.sentSinceCheck())
+	assert.False(t, (hostinfo.state.Load()&stateIn != 0))
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Indexes, hostinfo.localIndexId)
 	assert.Contains(t, nc.hostMap.Hosts, hostinfo.vpnAddrs[0])
 }

control.go

@@ -212,7 +212,7 @@ func (c *Control) RebindUDPServer() {
 	c.f.lightHouse.SendUpdate()
 
 	// Let the main interface know that we rebound so that underlying tunnels know to trigger punches from their remotes
-	c.f.rebindCount++
+	c.f.rebindEpoch.Add(1)
 }
 
 // ListHostmapHosts returns details about the actual or pending (handshaking) hostmap by vpn ip

control_tester.go

@@ -123,6 +123,16 @@ func (c *Control) SetLocalAddrsFn(fn func(*LocalAllowList) []netip.Addr) {
 	c.f.lightHouse.localAddrsFn = fn
 }
 
+// GetRebindEpochFor returns the rebind epoch a tunnel last sent under, so a test can tell whether a send
+// consumed the epoch edge without having to infer it from lighthouse traffic.
+func (c *Control) GetRebindEpochFor(vpnAddr netip.Addr) (uint32, bool) {
+	h := c.f.hostMap.QueryVpnAddr(vpnAddr)
+	if h == nil {
+		return 0, false
+	}
+	return h.state.Load() >> stateEpochShift, true
+}
+
 func (c *Control) KillPendingTunnel(vpnIp netip.Addr) bool {
 	hostinfo := c.f.handshakeManager.QueryVpnAddr(vpnIp)
 	if hostinfo == nil {

e2e/rebind_test.go

@@ -223,3 +223,57 @@ func TestRebindAdvertisesNewAddressAfterMove(t *testing.T) {
 	lhControl.Stop()
 	myControl.Stop()
 }
+
+// A relayed send records traffic but must not consume the rebind epoch. If it does, the next direct send to the
+// relay host sees the epoch already current and never requeries, so the far side is never told to punch at our
+// new address. This pins the SendVia call site, which the unit tests cannot reach.
+func TestRebindRequeriesAfterRelayedSend(t *testing.T) {
+	t.Parallel()
+	ca, _, caKey, _ := cert_test.NewTestCaCert(cert.Version2, cert.Curve_CURVE25519, time.Now(), time.Now().Add(10*time.Minute), nil, nil, []string{})
+
+	// No lighthouse on purpose: it would hand out a direct address for them and nothing would relay.
+	myControl, myVpnIpNet, _, _ := newSimpleServer(cert.Version2, ca, caKey, "me", "10.128.0.1/24", m{"relay": m{"use_relays": true}})
+	relayControl, relayVpnIpNet, relayUdpAddr, _ := newSimpleServer(cert.Version2, ca, caKey, "relay", "10.128.0.128/24", m{"relay": m{"am_relay": true}})
+	theirControl, theirVpnIpNet, theirUdpAddr, _ := newSimpleServer(cert.Version2, ca, caKey, "them", "10.128.0.2/24", m{"relay": m{"use_relays": true}})
+
+	myControl.InjectLightHouseAddr(relayVpnIpNet[0].Addr(), relayUdpAddr)
+	myControl.InjectRelays(theirVpnIpNet[0].Addr(), []netip.Addr{relayVpnIpNet[0].Addr()})
+	relayControl.InjectLightHouseAddr(theirVpnIpNet[0].Addr(), theirUdpAddr)
+
+	r := router.NewR(t, myControl, relayControl, theirControl)
+	defer r.RenderFlow()
+
+	myControl.Start()
+	relayControl.Start()
+	theirControl.Start()
+
+	myControl.InjectTunPacket(BuildTunUDPPacket(theirVpnIpNet[0].Addr(), 80, myVpnIpNet[0].Addr(), 80, []byte("establish")))
+	r.RouteForAllUntilTxTun(theirControl)
+	r.RouteFor(time.Millisecond * 500)
+
+	hi := myControl.GetHostInfoByVpnAddr(theirVpnIpNet[0].Addr(), false)
+	require.NotNil(t, hi, "expected a tunnel to them")
+	require.NotEmpty(t, hi.CurrentRelaysToMe, "them must be reachable only via the relay for this test to mean anything")
+	// sendNoMetrics only reaches SendVia when there is no direct remote, so pin that too. Without this the test
+	// keeps passing while quietly sending direct and never exercising the relay path.
+	require.False(t, hi.CurrentRemote.IsValid(), "them must have no direct remote, otherwise SendVia is never called")
+
+	before, ok := myControl.GetRebindEpochFor(relayVpnIpNet[0].Addr())
+	require.True(t, ok, "expected a tunnel to the relay")
+
+	myControl.RebindUDPServer()
+
+	// Traffic to them goes through SendVia on the relay tunnel. That must record traffic without consuming the
+	// relay tunnel's own epoch edge, which belongs to the direct path.
+	myControl.InjectTunPacket(BuildTunUDPPacket(theirVpnIpNet[0].Addr(), 80, myVpnIpNet[0].Addr(), 80, []byte("relayed")))
+	r.RouteForAllUntilTxTun(theirControl)
+
+	after, ok := myControl.GetRebindEpochFor(relayVpnIpNet[0].Addr())
+	require.True(t, ok)
+	assert.Equal(t, before, after,
+		"a relayed send consumed the relay tunnel's rebind epoch, so the next direct send will not requery")
+
+	myControl.Stop()
+	relayControl.Stop()
+	theirControl.Stop()
+}

go.mod

@@ -23,7 +23,7 @@ require (
 	github.com/stretchr/testify v1.11.1
 	github.com/vishvananda/netlink v1.3.1
 	go.uber.org/goleak v1.3.0
-	go.yaml.in/yaml/v3 v3.0.5
+	go.yaml.in/yaml/v3 v3.0.4
 	golang.org/x/crypto v0.54.0
 	golang.org/x/exp v0.0.0-20230725093048-515e97ebf090
 	golang.org/x/net v0.57.0

go.sum

@@ -155,8 +155,8 @@ go.uber.org/goleak v1.3.0 h1:2K3zAYmnTNqV73imy9J1T3WC+gmCePx2hEGkimedGto=
 go.uber.org/goleak v1.3.0/go.mod h1:CoHD4mav9JJNrW/WLlf7HGZPjdw8EucARQHekz1X6bE=
 go.yaml.in/yaml/v2 v2.4.2 h1:DzmwEr2rDGHl7lsFgAHxmNz/1NlQ7xLIrlN2h5d1eGI=
 go.yaml.in/yaml/v2 v2.4.2/go.mod h1:081UH+NErpNdqlCXm3TtEran0rJZGxAYx9hb/ELlsPU=
-go.yaml.in/yaml/v3 v3.0.5 h1:N6y/pJk8buWs9NY5ERU2HSMfm+IuD/OtfdAnq6kESPw=
-go.yaml.in/yaml/v3 v3.0.5/go.mod h1:HVTZu1O7/Vkt2N+BFy8Zza+lnLsABggaTM2ZpNIGuKg=
+go.yaml.in/yaml/v3 v3.0.4 h1:tfq32ie2Jv2UxXFdLJdh3jXuOzWiL1fo0bu/FbuKpbc=
+go.yaml.in/yaml/v3 v3.0.4/go.mod h1:DhzuOOF2ATzADvBadXxruRBLzYTpT36CKvDb3+aBEFg=
 golang.org/x/crypto v0.0.0-20180904163835-0709b304e793/go.mod h1:6SG95UA2DQfeDnfUPMdvaQW0Q7yPrPDi9nlGo2tz2b4=
 golang.org/x/crypto v0.0.0-20190308221718-c2843e01d9a2/go.mod h1:djNgcEr1/C05ACkg1iLfiJU5Ep61QUkGW8qpdssI0+w=
 golang.org/x/crypto v0.0.0-20191011191535-87dc89f01550/go.mod h1:yigFU9vqHzYiE8UmvKecakEJjdnWj3jj499lnFckfCI=

hostmap.go

@@ -238,18 +238,26 @@ const (
 )
 
 type HostInfo struct {
+	// The first cache line is everything the packet paths touch.
+
 	remote          atomic.Pointer[netip.AddrPort]
-	remotes         *RemoteList
-	promoteCounter  atomic.Uint32
 	ConnectionState *ConnectionState
-	remoteIndexId   uint32
-	localIndexId    uint32
+
+	// Traffic bits, pendingDeletion, and the rebind epoch we last sent under
+	state atomic.Uint32
+
+	promoteCounter atomic.Uint32
+	remoteIndexId  uint32
+	localIndexId   uint32
+	remotes        *RemoteList
 
 	// vpnAddrs is a list of vpn addresses assigned to this host that are within our own vpn networks
 	// The host may have other vpn addresses that are outside our
 	// vpn networks but were removed because they are not usable
 	vpnAddrs []netip.Addr
 
+	// Everything below is off the packet path: handshakes, relays, roaming and the connection manager.
+
 	// networks is a combination of specific vpn addresses (not prefixes!) and full unsafe networks assigned to this host.
 	networks   *bart.Table[NetworkType]
 	relayState RelayState
@@ -262,11 +270,6 @@ type HostInfo struct {
 	// This is used to limit lighthouse re-queries in chatty clients
 	nextLHQuery atomic.Int64
 
-	// lastRebindCount is the other side of Interface.rebindCount, if these values don't match then we need to ask LH
-	// for a punch from the remote end of this tunnel. The goal being to prime their conntrack for our traffic just like
-	// with a handshake
-	lastRebindCount int8
-
 	// lastHandshakeTime records the time the remote side told us about at the stage when the handshake was completed locally
 	// Stage 1 packet will contain it if I am a responder, stage 2 packet if I am an initiator
 	// This is used to avoid an attack where a handshake packet is replayed after some time
@@ -275,9 +278,6 @@ type HostInfo struct {
 	lastRoam       time.Time
 	lastRoamRemote netip.AddrPort
 
-	//TODO: in, out, and others might benefit from being an atomic.Int32. We could collapse connectionManager pendingDeletion, relayUsed, and in/out into this 1 thing
-	in, out, pendingDeletion atomic.Bool
-
 	// lastUsed tracks the last time ConnectionManager checked the tunnel and it was in use.
 	// This value will be behind against actual tunnel utilization in the hot path.
 	// This should only be used by the ConnectionManagers ticker routine.
@@ -658,7 +658,7 @@ func (hm *HostMap) unlockedAddHostInfo(hostinfo *HostInfo, f *Interface) {
 	hm.Indexes[hostinfo.localIndexId] = hostinfo
 	hm.RemoteIndexes[hostinfo.remoteIndexId] = hostinfo
 
-	hostinfo.out.Store(true)
+	hostinfo.markOut(f.rebindEpoch.Load())
 	if f.connectionManager != nil { // f.connectionManager is only nil in some unit tests
 		f.connectionManager.trafficTimer.Add(hostinfo.localIndexId, f.connectionManager.checkInterval)
 	}
@@ -759,6 +759,68 @@ func (i *HostInfo) TryPromoteBest(preferredRanges []netip.Prefix, ifce *Interfac
 	}
 }
 
+// Bits within HostInfo.state, everything above stateEpochShift is the epoch
+const (
+	stateIn uint32 = 1 << iota
+	stateOut
+	statePendingDeletion
+
+	stateFlags      = stateIn | stateOut | statePendingDeletion
+	stateEpochShift = 3
+)
+
+// markIn records inbound traffic
+func (i *HostInfo) markIn() {
+	if i.state.Load()&stateIn == 0 {
+		i.state.Or(stateIn)
+	}
+}
+
+// markOut records a send and reports whether the epoch moved, meaning we want a punch from the far side
+func (i *HostInfo) markOut(epoch uint32) bool {
+	e := epoch << stateEpochShift
+	for {
+		old := i.state.Load()
+		if old&stateOut != 0 && old&^stateFlags == e {
+			return false
+		}
+
+		if i.state.CompareAndSwap(old, old&stateFlags|stateOut|e) {
+			return old&^stateFlags != e
+		}
+	}
+}
+
+// markOutOnly records a send without consuming the rebind epoch, for paths that cannot act on a requery
+func (i *HostInfo) markOutOnly() {
+	if i.state.Load()&stateOut == 0 {
+		i.state.Or(stateOut)
+	}
+}
+
+// sentSinceCheck reports whether anything has been sent since the connection manager last looked
+func (i *HostInfo) sentSinceCheck() bool {
+	return i.state.Load()&stateOut != 0
+}
+
+// takeTraffic clears both traffic bits, leaving the epoch alone, and reports what they were
+func (i *HostInfo) takeTraffic() (in bool, out bool) {
+	old := i.state.And(^(stateIn | stateOut))
+	return old&stateIn != 0, old&stateOut != 0
+}
+
+func (i *HostInfo) setPendingDeletion(v bool) {
+	if v {
+		i.state.Or(statePendingDeletion)
+	} else {
+		i.state.And(^statePendingDeletion)
+	}
+}
+
+func (i *HostInfo) isPendingDeletion() bool {
+	return i.state.Load()&statePendingDeletion != 0
+}
+
 func (i *HostInfo) GetCert() *cert.CachedCertificate {
 	if i.ConnectionState != nil {
 		return i.ConnectionState.peerCert

hostmap_test.go

@@ -401,3 +401,43 @@ func TestHostMap_RelayState(t *testing.T) {
 	assert.Equal(t, []netip.Addr{}, h1.relayState.relays)
 
 }
+
+func TestHostInfo_markOut(t *testing.T) {
+	h := &HostInfo{}
+	h.markOut(5) // stamped when the tunnel was added
+
+	// A tunnel already on the current epoch has nothing to report, which is what keeps a fresh tunnel from
+	// requerying on its first packet
+	assert.False(t, h.markOut(5), "an unchanged epoch should not report a move")
+	assert.True(t, h.sentSinceCheck(), "the send is still recorded as traffic")
+
+	// A rebind is observed exactly once, so we requery once per rebind
+	assert.True(t, h.markOut(6), "a bumped epoch should report a move")
+	assert.False(t, h.markOut(6), "the epoch move should only be reported once")
+
+	// Traffic and pendingDeletion live in the same word and must survive an epoch change
+	h.setPendingDeletion(true)
+	h.markIn()
+	assert.True(t, h.markOut(7))
+	assert.True(t, h.isPendingDeletion(), "pendingDeletion must survive an epoch change")
+	in, out := h.takeTraffic()
+	assert.True(t, in, "inbound traffic must survive an epoch change")
+	assert.True(t, out)
+
+	// Clearing the traffic bits leaves the epoch alone, otherwise an idle tunnel would requery forever
+	assert.False(t, h.markOut(7), "takeTraffic must not disturb the epoch")
+}
+
+// A relayed send records traffic but must leave the rebind epoch for the direct path to consume, otherwise
+// relaying to a host swallows the requery that gets the far side punching at our new address.
+func TestHostInfo_markOutOnly(t *testing.T) {
+	h := &HostInfo{}
+	h.markOut(5)
+
+	h.markOutOnly()
+	assert.True(t, h.sentSinceCheck(), "a relayed send is still outbound traffic")
+	assert.False(t, h.markOut(5), "a relayed send must not disturb the epoch")
+
+	assert.True(t, h.markOut(6), "a relayed send must not consume the epoch edge")
+	assert.False(t, h.markOut(6))
+}

inside.go

@@ -297,7 +297,7 @@ func (f *Interface) SendVia(via *HostInfo,
 	c := via.ConnectionState.messageCounter.Add(1)
 
 	out = header.Encode(out, header.Version, header.Message, header.MessageRelay, relay.RemoteIndex, c)
-	f.connectionManager.Out(via)
+	f.connectionManager.OutRelay(via)
 
 	// Authenticate the header and payload, but do not encrypt for this message type.
 	// The payload consists of the inner, unencrypted Nebula header, as well as the end-to-end encrypted payload.
@@ -365,17 +365,11 @@ func (f *Interface) sendNoMetrics(t header.MessageType, st header.MessageSubType
 
 	//l.WithField("trace", string(debug.Stack())).Error("out Header ", &Header{Version, t, st, 0, hostinfo.remoteIndexId, c}, p)
 	out = header.Encode(out, header.Version, t, st, hostinfo.remoteIndexId, c)
-	f.connectionManager.Out(hostinfo)
-
-	// Query our LH if we haven't since the last time we've been rebound, this will cause the remote to punch against
-	// all our addrs and enable a faster roaming.
-	if t != header.CloseTunnel && hostinfo.lastRebindCount != f.rebindCount {
-		//NOTE: there is an update hole if a tunnel isn't used and exactly 256 rebinds occur before the tunnel is
-		// finally used again. This tunnel would eventually be torn down and recreated if this action didn't help.
+	// We rebound since this tunnel last sent, ask the lighthouse to get the far side punching at us again
+	if f.connectionManager.Out(hostinfo) && t != header.CloseTunnel {
 		f.lightHouse.QueryServer(hostinfo.vpnAddrs[0])
-		hostinfo.lastRebindCount = f.rebindCount
 		if f.l.Enabled(context.Background(), slog.LevelDebug) {
-			f.l.Debug("Lighthouse update triggered for punch due to rebind counter",
+			f.l.Debug("Lighthouse update triggered for punch due to rebind epoch",
 				"vpnAddrs", hostinfo.vpnAddrs,
 			)
 		}

interface.go

@@ -82,8 +82,8 @@ type Interface struct {
 	sendRecvErrorConfig   recvErrorConfig
 	acceptRecvErrorConfig recvErrorConfig
 
-	// rebindCount is used to decide if an active tunnel should trigger a punch notification through a lighthouse
-	rebindCount int8
+	// Bumped on every udp rebind, tunnels compare it to decide they need a punch from the far side
+	rebindEpoch atomic.Uint32
 	version     string
 
 	conntrackCacheTimeout time.Duration